Dating a military service member is not like dating a civilian. Military members sign their lives over to the government. They can still be worthwhile and successful, but you have to let go of some of the traditional dating rules.
Why you shouldnt date someone in the military?
Dont date him/her just because of an impending deployment. Deployments put a lot of pressure on everything– you, your military member, the relationship. The time leading up to a deployment can feel like a pressure cooker… and it can also feel very, very romantic.
Should you get married before joining the military?
The truth is that the choice is yours as to when you get married. You can marry him before or after Basic Military Training(BMT), or when he has completed all of his initial training schools. Most new spouses say it was less stressful to get married after the service member completed basic and other initial schools.