Emotional manipulation, or “negging,” can be so subtle at first that you dont see it for what it is. After all, everyone says something they wish they hadnt on occasion. Over time, negging can damage your self-esteem and change the way you live. It can also spiral into severe emotional or physical abuse.

Why is it called negging?

The earliest online examples of the word negging appear in the late 1990s. The term originated in the pick-up artist community, where men teach each other tips and tricks on how to seduce women. Its a shortening of the phrase “negative comments.” Neg can be used as a noun or a verb.

What is an example of negging?

For example: “That report was terrible, but the subject is completely over your head.” “Not to rain on your parade or anything, but I thought you should know that outfit makes you look dumpy.” “I know you put a lot into writing that song, but it grates on my nerves.”