First dates are often awkward, but the awkwardness is part of what makes them so exciting, Dr. Jess OReilly, relationship expert and sexologist at Astroglide, tells Bustle. When you feel nervous or unsure, it can heighten your attention and attraction; its part of what makes new love so exciting and passionate.

Are relationships supposed to be awkward at first?

“Relationships tend to be awkward in the beginning because you are just getting to know the person,” Texas-based psychotherapist Richard E. “Therefore, the awkwardness comes from the desire to be accepted by a person of interest.” It can be awkward — and tiring.