Can a female be an alpha male?

The highest-ranking male is the alpha male. The highest-ranking female is the alpha female. Every primate group has one alpha male, one alpha female, not more than that.

What kind of woman does an alpha male need?

This is why we need a woman who has control over herself and her own life. Alpha males like to be in control of their pack, but their woman isnt part of that pack; shes part of him. In order for the relationship to work, she needs to have as much control over her reality as he does.