The unspoken rules of girl code imply that its basically never OK to date your friends ex, especially your best friends former boyfriend. Unless you value your relationship with a guy more than your friendship, respect that your friend may not be thrilled you want to start dating her ex.

Is it wrong to date your ex friends ex boyfriend?

“Ex-boyfriends are off-limits to friends,” she says—nay, screeches. “You can date whomever youd like, but its likely that youll want to consider your friends feelings too,” says sexologist Jess OReilly, PhD. If the breakup was recent, for example, your friend may have some lingering feelings.

How do you get over your best friend dating your ex?

Allow yourself to feel angry or sad at first. Dont say things like “I dont care” or “It doesnt matter,” if youre still upset about the situation. Lean into the feelings instead. Avoid doing things just to get back at your ex, like dating one of their friends in retaliation.