Infatuation is Not Love A love affair is about that initial “in love” feeling, that point in a relationship when someone is blinded to the other persons flaws. By its very nature, a love affair prolongs those feelings of infatuation. People engaged in an affair spend little “real” time together.

What does having an affair say about a person?

Research has found that, when the affair is revealed, both partners can experience mental health issues including anxiety, depression and thoughts of suicide. There can also be an increase in emotional and physical violence within the couple.

Can an affair be a good thing?

Here an affair can be a healthy act. It may reflect an unconscious or semi-conscious awareness of a desire to become more alive, to grow. That is, an affair can provide feelings of affirmation and restore vitality and can activate courage to leave a marriage when doing so is the healthiest path.